How to Renew Your Hope After Losing It: Part One


How to Renew Your Hope After Losing It: Part One

How to Renew Your Hope After Losing It: Part One

3 General Principals

Hope is one of three things that lasts forever (1 Corinthians 13:13).

But that doesn’t mean our hopes are always fulfilled.

In fact, they can often be let down. And when that happens, we can be left devastated. That’s why the Bible lets us know that a “hope deferred makes the heart sick” (Proverbs 13:12).

We all know what that feels like. We get passed up for a promotion we’ve hoped for after many years. Someone we were once close to doesn’t want to speak with us and we try to make it work but to no avail.

But some of us know what a hope deferred feels like on a deep level. And that is when we hope someone we love who is battling a drug or alcohol addiction would find freedom. Only to stay enslaved to the addiction, keeping us and themselves in the vicious cycle of broken promises to change.

In this situation, we have to find a way to overcome the sickening feeling of deferred hope. So, what is the remedy for this sick heart?

To understand the answer to this question, we must first understand the root of the pain itself.

What causes our hearts to be sick when our hope for a loved one to quit using is deferred? When we boil this down to the core, we find that we are focused on the people who are closest to us. It is not a stranger we hope finds freedom, it’s our child, parent, sibling, etc. It is someone who is part of our world.

Since the pain is happening in our close world, the remedy is to get ourselves outside of that world and into the bigger world around us.

It is a matter of focus.

The truth is that sometimes our family members do not change. And when that is the case, we have to look beyond them to find renewed hope. That is the remedy.

So, what are some ways we can look outside of our immediate circle and focus on other people who may actually benefit from our help?

In this part of our two-part series on hope, we will look at the three general things we can give to others that will help us renew our hope.

In the next part of this series, we will look at some specific ways we can apply the general principles discussed in this post.

So, let’s look at the 3 general ways we can give to others as we shift our focus and renew our hope again.


This is actually one of the hardest of the 3 resources for some of us to give. Many people will give their money to help someone before they’d give their Saturday to do it. But giving time to get involved in helping others is a great way for us to renew our own hope in life.


This is usually the first thing that comes to mind when we talk about giving. It’s our money. Some of us may be reluctant to give these resources since so many fakes have taken advantage of our willingness to help in this arena. But we don’t have to let people who could benefit from and would appreciate our financial help suffer because of someone who sought selfish gain and profit. When we get involved with helping others by supporting with our finances, we renew our own hope in the possibility for change and betterment.


This resource varies from individual to individual. Maybe you can sew. Perhaps you can write. It could be that you are a good communicator. Whatever skills and talents you have, you can use them to bless other people. When you do, you will, in turn, be blessed. You own hope will revive as you see other people’s hope revived as a result of you giving your talents and abilities to help them.

These 3 basic things are resources that God gives us to manage. When we use them to help people that never change, we lose hope.

But by engaging them to help others, and by using them in the specific ways we will cover in the next post, our hopes are renewed once again.

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